Confessions … of a Bride to Be

Romantic Renaissance… I finally figured out my wedding theme this whole time I was planning for the BIG day and not once came up with a theme until another bride asked me what it was and then it hit me.
Only 22 days left, things are starting to get a little blurry. I guess throughout all this commotion I didn’t take time to gather my own thoughts about marriage and the ever after. It was recently that it hit me “I am getting married” CRAP…
Writing my vows brought back many great memories, I found myself reminiscing … Listening to the fiancé it made me question my TRUE feelings on the matter, he is so sure of himself and how this all will work out and of our FUTURE… I guess it’s kind of intimidating. The only thing that I am sure of is that I love him and that I couldn’t see myself without him and that I would love to walk this crazy life everyday with him by my side.
However, I have my own doubts as to my contribution to this marriage. I worry about able to live up to everything that he expects of me, will I ever let him down, and will he wake up one morning and question what he got himself into. Will he love me ten years from now? I guess those are the TRUE questions in my heart.
With the countdown coming to an end and moving into our new place and all the excitement I try to stay grounded and capture those moments that make all this worthwhile and every step of the way I am reassured of why I love him and want to spend the rest of my with him, he reassures me without even knowing it.
I love him and that is all that matters to him and is enough, I believe that can conquer all and that is all that matters and is enough.
I have been blessed with a great man and I am a better woman because of him

Frustrations of a Bride to Be...

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So when planning a wedding every BRIDE (me) believes that is going to be full of love and romance... YEAH RIGHT! No wedding planner, previous bride or all the advise in the world prepares you for all the stress and crap that you must deal with and overlook. 

During these difficult times planning a wedding, is well BONKERS but so far so good. We managed to save some money by cutting many corners. Ladies get married on any day other than Saturday! Trust me, it helps.

I began planning my wedding in December 2008, the fiancé and I decided on a venue back in March of this year. The venue, Renaissance on the Gables, Coral Gables, Miami... AWESOME they have package deals that help relieve STRESS and accommodate all types of wedding themes. This was so simple and I guess that I became spoiled and thought that the rest of the journey would be the same.

Boy was I wrong…

Spring break 2009 was severe; while others went to extravagant destinations I spent it planning my dream wedding. Picked a ceremony venue, the pastor, theme, tuxes, and a gown all in one week. When it came to the dress (the most important part when planning a wedding in my book) I went to the Wal-Mart of bridal dresses…David’s Bridal. I tried on 8 dresses and ended up saying, “yes” to the first dress I tried on.  A princess cut, satin A-line gown with beaded embroidered, metallic bodice and inverted V empire. I love it, and that day I realized that the term “BRIDEZILLA” does exist and let me tell you …its UGLY, all the consultants kept complementing me on my carefree demeanor. They told me stories of some lets say HIGH strong brides.  I enjoyed that day both my mother and maid of honor came out to help me choose a dress, considering my tomboy ways I think I did a pretty good job.

One of my most difficult missions to overcome was selecting the BRIDESMAIDS. I love them all, but let me tell you being a tomboy didn’t help in this department. Considering that most of my friends are guys, it was hard to determine who to consider my bridesmaid some where a no brainer but others were difficult, once I chose my top 5, that is when the GAME actually began. Getting them to COMMIT was the difficult part. They were quitting on me left and right. Thank God for the MOH (Maid of Honor,) she kept me afloat. Luckily this mission has been accomplished and I will have my girls with me on this very special day.

With only 29 days till the big day, I guess I could say what has been the most difficult and biggest mountain to climb was the guest list, I mean how difficult is it to put an RSVP in the mail before the deadline… jeez HISPANICS are so difficult or should I say FAMILY. Good Lord that was a LONG DAY.

I guess what I have learned throughout this journey would be to pick your battles and take it one day at a time. Know who can help you and don’t be afraid to ask for help. Do research and be happy, its one of the most important days of your life.

Live your life,

Jazmin 

Newly Single: Something I wrote after a long term relationship!

It is believed that beautiful women are single because they are too “full of themselves” to devote any time to anyone else. In the process of becoming a single woman, this could be true. At the beginning stage as a beautiful woman is breaking out of a relationship and into the realm of "bachelorism" she is looking for something "better." She is exhausted of the dead-end relationship she is in and has decided to take fate into her own hands and fulfill her wishes elsewhere.
In the beginning stage of this exhilaration of hope, the woman has a prototype of what she knows her "prince charming" to be and begins her "search." At this point, she is what some people would call self-absorbed or "full of herself." Because she has the power to appoint a new partner into her life, she feels a sense of revival and importance. Reflects the attitude of "I can choose whomever and reject whomever I please."
Can you blame her? For such a long time, a beautiful woman is caught in a prison of unfulfilled wishes and a sense of doubt is the only sense overwhelming her curiosity to explore life outside of unhappiness (otherwise known as the previous relationship or the "ex-boyfriend syndrome). Of course, in the beginning of this new voyage there is always doubt and fear to return to what she knows as comfortable- the wrong man- the man she has just decided wasn't good enough. Yet, after some evaluation and a few nights out with the girls, this fear and doubt is vanquished.
Yes, a NEWLY SINGLE beautiful woman is full of herself. Some may state how horrible it is and have their opinions on her flaws and worth to society, but in the same sense, understand WHY- because she deserves to be.
As long as it takes for that outcome to be reached, is as long as it will take to attain a satisfying relationship. After resolving and equating to a different solution, consider your possibilities and return to being "full of yourself." Not only will your spouse appreciate your sense of self-worth but so will you. Besides, you deserve it.